Girl gamers do exist. I wrote an editorial some time ago entitled, Is The Girl Gamer A Myth? and after the massive influx of e-mails in my inbox disabusing me of such an absurd motion, I was forced to issue a follow-up article citing many of the responses.

However, at the time, I noticed a recurring theme in those responses and ever since, that theme has become more obvious. Girl gamers are out there and many of them are probably playing online with you…but you might not ever know it. Why? Because the maturity level of too many gamers is below that of an infant. Has anyone been in PlayStation Home if someone is wandering around with a female avatar? How many times did I hear a girl gamer say they play shooters all the time, but never with a microphone, because it would become an unbearable experience? Some of those gals are just plain unapologetic ; they're out there, and they're gonna kick your ass if you've got a problem with it.

But most, I've found, aren't like that at all. Whether it's because older gamers can scarcely believe any normal female would play video games, or because the younger crowd hurl insults while hiding behind the veil of anonymity, many females who indulge in the hobby prefer to stay out of sight (and out of ear). Some don't even like the idea of going into GameStop; if the girl is even remotely attractive, they're creeped out in minutes if a certain clientele happens to be in the store. Things aren't any better in online communities; that veil of anonymity once again causes all sorts of problems, and again, I've heard of many a girl gamer hiding their gender when posting in game forums. This is not a good sign. Immaturity and video games have been linked together for a very long time – a common stereotype – and this really isn't helping.

Oh, they're out there, all right. But you'll probably never see one, because she's either disgusted or freaked out whenever that fact becomes public knowledge. So maybe the best indicator of an audience that is finally grown up arrives when girls don't have to tolerate our adolescent bullsh**. Wonder when that will be?

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Pandacastro
Pandacastro
9 years ago

Maybe they will come out when all those little kids grow up.

sonic1899
sonic1899
9 years ago

If they wait until then, then they'll never come out


Last edited by sonic1899 on 12/4/2010 12:02:48 AM

Nynja
Nynja
9 years ago

And the sad part is as they grow up, new kids join…the beautiful cycle of video games.

One way to fix the bull$#!+ online is to provide the person's Phone Number, Home Address, and Hair Color next to their online account.

If they lost the 'safety' of being anonymous, I'm sure they'll quit the bull$#!+.

LightShow
LightShow
9 years ago

dont hold your breath.

on a related note, i used to find out friends i had made while playing games online were girls months after the fact when on a private chat channel. theyre definitely out there, and theyre definitely hiding.

Danny007
Danny007
9 years ago

Want proof that girl gamers exist? Watch The Tester.

Yukian
Yukian
9 years ago

I know a few males that they'd feel awkward, to say the least, knowing a female plays videogames and they could get beaten by them. I'd be thrilled to play with girls anytime. I say, the more, the merrier!

EvilKen
EvilKen
9 years ago

Girl Gamers are Excellent

Gordo
Gordo
9 years ago

I once saw this large female frog in a pond and it had been pounced upon by 20 smaller male frogs. They had all grabbed on to the female and she was drowned by the weight of the males…

I think that is a bit like being a female gamer (especially online).

Sometimes better to keep your head down otherwise before you know it you will be battered and bruised and covered in tadpoles.

PAKINIPS
PAKINIPS
9 years ago

WTF ?


Last edited by PAKINIPS on 12/3/2010 10:52:07 PM

Lawless SXE
Lawless SXE
9 years ago

I like that analogy.

DeusExMachina
DeusExMachina
9 years ago

Funny! Nw that I think abt it, it would prob be the opposite if it was reversed, if girl gamers were majority and guys were minority. We would be coming out of the woodworks (sorry, the pun was unintended)

Weird and fascinating hw the male and female minds differ

NiteKrawler
NiteKrawler
9 years ago

@Deus: I don't know. I don't see guys going crazy over at Burlington Coat Factory or Macy's, even though many girls like that stuff.

BattleFox21
BattleFox21
9 years ago

I actually have a few girl gamers I play with. I respect them and we have fun kicking as$. With that said I agree that ppl go crazy online when they find out a gamer is a girl. I recommend a respectful approach then maybe one day we can all play together without fear of stupidity lol!

WorldEndsWithMe
WorldEndsWithMe
9 years ago

"Such an absurd" notion. Old Bean. 🙂

Lawless SXE
Lawless SXE
9 years ago

I don't really blame them for hiding. I mean, most of us play games in order to relax, and I imagine being swarmed by about a hundred hard-up guys in an MMO would be very offputting. I don't think that most guys will ever grow up to such a level as to be able to play online with a girl, and not focus much of their attention on her, but I really don't understand it. Yeah, it might be a relatively rare phenomenon, but just get over it. People are people. Doesn't matter who they are, where they're from or what gender they are. Treat them as equals, pay them out when you kill them, and offer humble beggings of mercy when they thrash you.

Here's hoping one day, acceptance will become the norm.
Peace.

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

I love the point about MMOs. I can imagine that, it would resemble moths being attracted to a flame.

Actually when I play in Home, I use a female avatar. Why you ask? Because the female avatars are a hell of a lot nicer to look at than the male ones. So I spent some time crafting as beautify an Avatar as I could. Now when I'm in home I turn off all the communication features, unless I am with a group of friends, but it's truly hilarious to watch the avatars of other gamers react to my avatar. I swear there must be 63 hard up guys in a Home space sometimes. It really is like moths to a flame. I don't punk them by flipping to a male avatar, there'd be no point. But it's hilarious to leave the controller for a minute or three and return to find her (my Avatar) surrounded by guys all trying desperately to get the attention of I'm not sure what.

So, if you are ever in Home and see a decent looking female avatar who looks not unlike she sprang forth from some JRPG, with a screen name that looks familiar, you'll know who it is.

sonic1899
sonic1899
9 years ago

@Lawless
HA! I never beg. As long as she's a good gamer, I'm up for a good fight. I don't mind having female rivals. >:D


Last edited by sonic1899 on 12/4/2010 12:08:56 AM

Fane1024
Fane1024
9 years ago

I also usually use a female avatar in Home (and frequently RPGs like Oblivion), for the same reason.

The rude behavior has mostly petered out, though I still get friend requests from people before they've even said hello. Dude, at least chat me up first. ; P

Highlander, I tried sending a friend request to The Highlander a while back and the person said he didn't know PSXExtreme, so I guessed you used a different PSN ID. If you or any other regular wants to befriend me, please do.

Personally, I have no problem with losing to a woman. More power to them.


Last edited by Fane1024 on 12/4/2010 2:42:51 AM

leatherface
leatherface
9 years ago

Highlander, is your PSN id Buffalo Bill by any chance!?


Last edited by leatherface on 12/4/2010 3:02:57 PM

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

No, it's not, and I'm not about to hold a guessing game to guess my PSNID. As for those that do know it, I will thank you all to keep it to yourselves.

leatherface
leatherface
9 years ago

lol no guessing game, highlander. after i read your comment, i thought about The Silence of the lambs


Last edited by leatherface on 12/4/2010 6:56:25 PM

SmokeyPSD
SmokeyPSD
9 years ago

It's sad that this is the case, but I know a lot of female gamers and this is how it is.

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

My wife no longer goes into online games, and only goes into Home with me. She's so sick of the crap that she gets from other players.

Qubex
Qubex
9 years ago

Highlander, unless your wife tells people online she is female then it shouldn't be an issue right? If your wife plays a shooter or racer etc, how do they know she is female.

Home I can understand, because her avatar would be female I guess. But most games… unless you can select a female character should be ok right?

Q!

"play.experience.enjoy"

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

Her PSNID leaves no doubt about her gender, it is a truly girly name.

Gamer Girl Gemo
Gamer Girl Gemo
9 years ago

Ha, I'm screwed when it comes to my PSNID. They immediately think I'm a gay little boy though

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

LOL! Well, that's their loss then.

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

No, if my wife is anything to go by – and she is fairly typical – girl gamers take less than a month of crap online before the mics go off, the communications get turned off and that's that. Home is no exception. Male avatars in Home are as likely to be girl gamers in disguise as female avatars are to be something other than girls.

Ben Dutka PSXE
Ben Dutka PSXE
9 years ago

So did every last source on earth, if you check the Internet.

They just put the wrong pic up first, and people got confused.

Fane1024
Fane1024
9 years ago

Girls will be boys and boys will be girls.
It's a mixed-up, muddled-up, shook-up world,
Except for Lola.

BikerSaint
BikerSaint
9 years ago

When I first saw you come into the PSXE, I never thought that, I just saw the name for what it was for.

Just don't let those other dummies get to ya, LOL

BikerSaint
BikerSaint
9 years ago

Yeah, I first went into Home just before they cut off the voice, and it was just too pathetic to watch & listen to the huge circles of idiots trying to hit up the women avatars there.

If I were to start playing online, I'd have no problem playing along with, or, against a female.
Just as long as she didn't throw it in my face every 2 seconds that she whupped my a$$, LOL


Last edited by BikerSaint on 12/3/2010 11:22:24 PM

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

Yeah….but there are things that she could throw in your face every 2 seconds that you wouldn't mind….right?

Zorigo
Zorigo
9 years ago

Your wife wouldn't be too proud of you Highlander…
😉

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

My wife is well aware that the only person throwing anything in my face every two seconds is her.

BikerSaint
BikerSaint
9 years ago

Hey Highlander,

I know how you like tech, so check out what this guy's just done….

http://www.gamepron.com/news/2010/12/02/optical-camouflage-puts-kinect-into-stealth-mode/

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
9 years ago

That's a cool demo. I'd expect someone to do something similar with every other webcam out there now (if they haven't already) but it's kind of gratifying to see thins thing getting hacked so quickly.

mike rlz
mike rlz
9 years ago
BikerSaint
BikerSaint
9 years ago

That video was funny!!!!

AshT
AshT
9 years ago

I did hear female gamers while playing Uncharted 2 online, so thats a proof they exist

Gamer Girl Gemo
Gamer Girl Gemo
9 years ago

Could've been me 😉 haha

___________
___________
9 years ago

of course theres girl gamers, half my family plays games and there all girls!
actually, the youngest one Sarah loves gears 2 which is a bit of a worry considering shes only 12!
i was still reading comic books, and watching tom and Jerry at that age!

LittleBigMidget
LittleBigMidget
9 years ago

Oh ya, girl gamers exist. I was playing Uncharted 2 yesterday and one chick had a mic, she literally raped everyone in the game and called us all "Noobs"

Wissam
Wissam
9 years ago

Wow.

jcynavarro
jcynavarro
9 years ago

My girlfriend is one.. and she doesn't hide. In fact she is very loud about saying shes a gamer. And she's a good one at that…..

Godslim
Godslim
9 years ago

hehe same my girlfriend is a gamer too….she has more games than me lol!

Ultimate_Balla
Ultimate_Balla
9 years ago

Reminds me of The Big Bang Theory.

Lawless SXE
Lawless SXE
9 years ago

Love that show.

SSRGohan
SSRGohan
9 years ago

i think i have at least four girls in my friend list, but most of them are from Canada, i do trust them playing shooters to watch my back, theyre good team players but im over 25 im sure my maturity level its a lot higher than most of the teens that play shooters freaking out when a girl TALKS in the lobby, its like they never heard one before hahaha….

bloody_rootz
bloody_rootz
9 years ago

its a shame girls must feel like this, really is. but i am suprised by recent times of girls coming out of the closet. there is plenty of chicks out there that love it, i see em heaps in game shops, its cool.