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Sex Is A Part Of Games: Get Over It

Listen up, people: there's this little thing called overcompensation. You learn about it in Psychology 101; you don't need my full-fledged degree to understand the concept. I refuse to define it (if you need help, Google it or better yet, open an effing book), and I'll just assume you're familiar with the term, anyway…and there is no better explanation for all these self-righteous articles concerning sexual situations in video games.

You'll see them pop up every time a controversial game scene gets any press. The authors desperately attempt to be the rational, adult voices of reason by standing atop their soapbox and proclaiming, "we don't need that in games!" and "it doesn't make the game any better" and "we're not all adolescents with raging hormones." In response to the latter, no, you're not, but the vast majority of avid gamers are still male, and the vast majority of those males fall into the 18-35 age group. If you combine this with the painfully obvious fact that gaming is a massive multi-billion-dollar industry, the business angle is assured. It's something Hollywood has been doing for decades and to think gaming is somehow "above" that is absurd, and it's equally absurd to believe the sexual content in gaming is in some way "demeaning" either the product itself or the player. We're not children anymore; we're mature individuals who can process such information in an appropriate manner. And the rating system tries to insure that such content won't be seen by those too young to correctly process that information.

For the record, I'm not condoning the idea of creating a game based entirely around sex. …but how many of those have there been? Like 6? This is not an issue in our industry; there is not a sudden, disgusting, uncalled-for influx of sex and filth in our video games, so stop pretending as if there is. Yes, with advanced technology and as games creep ever closer to film, you will see more sexual content on our screens when interacting with video media. "Sex sells" has never been truer, and until I see significant evidence of major "sex titles" that actually score well and fare well on the sales charts, I am not about to say there's an issue. Nobody is going to play God of War III for the breasts. Nobody . Everybody played BMX XXX for the T&A but how many "everybodys" were there? 22? That alone proves that gamers are interested in the interactive, immersion-based aspects of video games, so we needn't defend ourselves for no reason.

And lastly, let's just face it: the dude writing the anti-sex gaming article is the 19-year-old computer science major, living at home and feigning maturity in order to potentially gain the respect of others and even the interest of females. It's the same idea as two guys checking out a PlayBoy in a store and one of their girlfriends walks in, and the chick's boyfriend suddenly goes, "yeah man, how can you read this crap?" It's transparent and it's overcompensating. The worst part is this: those who are mature, secure, and well-adjusted see directly through those complaining articles. They see through them as easily as a parent sees through a child's lie ("no mom, I didn't take the candy bar," with chocolate all over his face). There may be sex scenes in games, but if the game is bad , nobody gives a crap. If the game is good, it's just there; it's hardly a focal point. This is the way things are currently and until it changes, I won't be standing on a high-and-mighty soapbox.

Common sense will recognize a problem. Overreacting to a brief sex scene or even random nudity in games is the act of someone who has an ulterior motive. Plain and simple.

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ThePearlJamer
ThePearlJamer
14 years ago

there seems to be an article on sex and gaming every week…

LimitedVertigo
LimitedVertigo
14 years ago

People love both so why not post articles about the two? My only complaint is Ben needs to add some topics on Food.

Food-Sex-Games is a win win win situation.

Morals
Morals
14 years ago

lol so agreed

Wage SLAVES
Wage SLAVES
14 years ago

mmm…Do-nut!

Morals
Morals
14 years ago

SEX & BEN & GAMING the weekly editorial.

LimitedVertigo
LimitedVertigo
14 years ago

hahaha

Riku994
Riku994
14 years ago

As much as I doubt you'd be this ignorant Ben, but from reading this article it's almost as if you assume every male gamer is heterosexual, which can be taken the wrong way by a lot of people. I know you didn't mean it that way, I'm just saying what's said needs to be watched every once in a while. It's like that new Johnson's commercial where it says "a girl will be more interesting than a rubber duck", who knows if the kid's gunna turn out straight? It's like media is ignoring the fact that people can be homosexual, as to protect children from the idea or something, and personally I think it needs to stop. People wonder why kids thinks there's something wrong with being gay, yet the media never openly speaks of it so how are they supposed to know it's normal? Sure teachers and parents will say it's ok, but kids nowadays will believe the media over their elders any day. ANYWAY, this rant brought to you by minor observations by me being bored at 2 in the morning. My point though, I know you didn't mean it that way Ben, but it's an issue I think needs to be addressed. Thanks to anyone who actually takes the time to read this.

Ben Dutka PSXE
Ben Dutka PSXE
14 years ago

I will be perfectly honest with you: I think the entire country is plenty pro-gay enough.

In fact, I dare say it's much "hipper" to be gay than straight these days. At this point, the media is almost telling kids there's something wrong with being STRAIGHT. So no, I'm sorry, but I won't be bringing it into the limelight more than it already is. We're already bludgeoned over the head with it.


Last edited by Ben Dutka PSXE on 7/6/2009 12:03:36 AM

LimitedVertigo
LimitedVertigo
14 years ago

@Riku994

I think you're being a little ridiculous. You're coming off like the guy that watches a Budweiser commercial that contains 2 white guys, a black guy, and an Asian guy and complains about there being 2 white guys. Would you like Johnson to have a disclaimer at the bottom of the screen letting everyone know they are pro homosexuality?

Just because a form of media does not contain a specific demographic of society does not mean it isn't in favor for that specific group.

Masterofallz
Masterofallz
14 years ago

@ Ben.
Thank god. I am not the only one to notice the rise of bisexuality/homosexuality. (Not that thats a bad thing, I know that love can be anywhere.) But it seems to me that there are tons more then 10 years ago. And thats saying alot.

Wage SLAVES
Wage SLAVES
14 years ago

Funny thing is Homosexuals are the only ones that fly flags about there orientation. Maybe I should make one of being straight!?

Nature is um…natural. Why should we conform to the minority? It is choice though, just don't make the people who feel it is disgusting (being gay) have to be reminded of it ALL the f-ing time. That should be a right to us.


Last edited by Wage SLAVES on 7/6/2009 1:50:40 AM

Jed
Jed
14 years ago

IMO this is really not the place to start off on a rant like that.

" but the vast majority of avid gamers are still male, and the vast majority of those males fall into the 18-35 age group"

He is talking about the "vast majority". While there may be more gay gamers than most people think, they are a minority among gamers.

The only thing he said that wouldn't apply to homosexuals was about the brests in God of War.

www
www
14 years ago

Ben is PERFECTLY RIGHT! Couldn't agree more.

You Americans just don't see what your media is doing to you people. I really always sit back and pity all you a lot, its not your fault but your media keeps talking about gays like "Oh the governor admits he's gay" and everybody is happy. Your media make it seem gay is so cool than being straight.

If its not about gay, its about fat people who need to slim down, me personally am not fat but your media is constantly pressurizing the obese which is a very very bad thing.

Its sometimes painful my favorite series GTA likes to incorporate all these into its games. I have no problem with the sex scenes but GTAIV for instance had almost everybody picking on Roman cause he's fat. Now they have a new DLC coming like Ballad of Gay Tony not forgetting Brucie was also gay, all these don't bother me cause am straight and am not fat but the constant referral to these issues is getting boring.

Riku994
Riku994
14 years ago

Just throwing it out there, I'm Canadian lol. And ok you guys do make good points but it's just a personal opinion of mine.

Alienange
Alienange
14 years ago

Thanks for making us Canadians look like weirdos on a PS3 site… can we talk about something else now?

Wage SLAVES
Wage SLAVES
14 years ago

@Rikku994
I like the way you accepted the points of the people that criticized you. That is a show of a BIG man. You could've taken it in the butt (lol, sorry just had to) but you didn't.

Scarecrow
Scarecrow
14 years ago

Japan is so much better when it comes to such things.

Since they have no religion(well a minor one in Shinto-ism, which is very passive), they're not insecure 'bout sex and such. Heck just look at anime.

Americans just like to panic at anything/everything.

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
14 years ago

If you want to see the most horrified faces that a group of Americans can make, surprise them with an image of full frontal nudity of either sex. You'll never see more shock, fear, horror, disgust or anger.

Dealnightfire
Dealnightfire
14 years ago

I think sex in fine in games as long as it fits in the game and its not just thrown in there just to be pointless.. I mean the average age of a gamers these days is what 30 now? (Correct me if I'm wrong) and isn't that what that that fat M on the box from ESRB saying hey this is not for anyone under 17? Its like complaining rated R movies have too many sexual themes and should be tone down for kids.

Oh well the only reason why sex in video games is even a topic is that its easier to attack than real issues going on in the world and the US. Hollow battles.

Oyashiro
Oyashiro
14 years ago

You have nice legs Ben 😉

mackid1993
mackid1993
14 years ago

it annoys me when nudity isn't needed. for example the sex scene in the movie crank, it was necessary because it kept chev's heart going, it fit with the plot. (it was also hillarious)

Wage SLAVES
Wage SLAVES
14 years ago

I kind of agree, only cuz I am a bit of a dog… ;P


Last edited by Wage SLAVES on 7/6/2009 1:52:47 AM

killzone100
killzone100
14 years ago

how does sex keep someones heart going?

LimitedVertigo
LimitedVertigo
14 years ago

You clearly haven't seen the movie. I suggest you go ahead and watch Crank and then you will have answered your own question and be entertained at the same time.

BikerSaint
BikerSaint
14 years ago

Well I've never been politically correct & I'm not about to start now….

I really don't give a damn if someone is gay, but you don't need to let the whole wide world in on your lil not-so-secret, & I certainly don't want to know about it.

FYI, not since Jeffery Dalmer have I ever wanted to know what body parts you've been munching out on, nor do I frigging care if you ARE in love with Oscar Mayer's weiner!!!!!

Keep your business in your own bedroom, or at least private, & stop advertizing your preference to the whole wide world like it's a coat-of-arms banner that you've finally let the sun's rays peek into your wardrobe closet.

BTW, as for myself….. I do have a thing for beautiful lesbians though(but only for the fem side of the 2 gals!!! (Hmmm, maybe I should buy a coat-of arms lesbian banner & start advertizing my preferance too).


Last edited by BikerSaint on 7/6/2009 1:46:02 AM

Wage SLAVES
Wage SLAVES
14 years ago

Big Hell-yeah!

Bikersaint, totally agree.

jmo_INDY_Repub
jmo_INDY_Repub
14 years ago

Lesbian sex, video games, and food. That is perfect. Just to let everyone know, im straight. Riku? more like Rico the Puerto Rican gay gardener, Owner of House: Rico grab that shovel and put it next to your hoe. Rico: what do you want me to do with that shovel sir? Put in my hole? Owner: What? hell no! Rico: Are you sure? HAHA! future sitcom right there.

www
www
14 years ago

BikerSaint i agree, gays should keep that sh*t to themselves.

Jawknee
Jawknee
14 years ago

I find it amazing that in todays world, a gay man can put his junk into another mans balloon knot yet I and many others are the ones who are considered sick for thinking that gay sex is gross. Lol. The world is upside down my friends.

I don't have any problems with gays other then the fact that some(not all)but some accuse me and others for forcing our traditions on them yet they're the ones trying to change a tradition that been around since, I don't know, THE BEGINNING OF TIME!! they are masters at projection. They accuse the other side of doing exaclty what are are guilty of doing. they call us bigots yet they have some of the nastiest people representing their side like that turd Perez Hilton who finally got his just dessert by Will.I.Am from that Black Eyed Peas.

All in all gays can do what they want. They just need to stop trying to force the rest of us to like it and stop trying to get the public schools to brain wash our children into thinking gay relationships are normal and healthy. Cause it's obvious that they are not.

bearbobby
bearbobby
14 years ago

Woah, feel the love in this thread…

Phoelix
Phoelix
14 years ago

Gay people probably feel the need to assert themselves because they're facing so much opposition.

I mean, look at yourselves. It's not like gay people are doing their business in the streets for all to see.

The bigger deal everyone makes of it, the bigger deal there is.

jmo_INDY_Repub
jmo_INDY_Repub
14 years ago

imo the human body is art, and imo so are video games, its just art meeting art. Thats the way it should be, personally i think kids should be allowed to see sex on TV and movies. Its nature, its no different then going to the Discovery channel and seeing two animals having sex. Get over it, sex isnt a big deal. Its just nature. Let it be. Im glad developers are pushing the envelope and exposing kids to stuff there sheltered eyes never got to see before.

tes37
tes37
14 years ago

Just so you know, you will find yourself in a jail cell showing things of that nature to children. Animals breed or mate, it's not sex between two animals.

Vivi_Gamer
Vivi_Gamer
14 years ago

I dunno, nudity is fine i guess, but actually controlling a character having sex… its a little immoral isnt it and…. quite pathetic. its not something you want to control in the family living room lol.

Scarecrow
Scarecrow
14 years ago

We are talking 'bout "scenes" or just plain and SIMPLE (sometimes subtle) nudity here, just like in movies.

Jawknee
Jawknee
14 years ago

Immoral and unneccesary.

Effi
Effi
14 years ago

*waves Straight for Life! banner*

– just in case anybody thinks i'm against gays.. no im not. I'm just doing wat gays are doing. Thanks.

bearbobby
bearbobby
14 years ago

I love how everyone in this thread starts out saying "I don't have anything against gays…" then spouts off several things they DO have against gays. lol

I don't have an "agenda" beyond living the happiest life I can, with the one I love (and fitting in a vid game here and there.) The one I love just happens to be a big bear of a man. Don't be afraid, it didn't affect you when you didn't know, and it doesn't affect you now.

We've never attended meetings with the main topic of "trying to get the public schools to brain wash our children into thinking gay relationships are normal and healthy." No more than so than our recent ancestors attended meetings trying to introduce the "evil" of interacial relationships to their children. It's a natural progression.

People fear what they don't understand. The point of gay pride parades and flags is not to force people to like gays, but to force them to recognize that we exist, we are real people, and it's not nearly as rare as some once thought. Gay pride events aren't about making people gay or flaunting our sexuality, they're supposed to be a beacon of hope for the younger generation, to let them know they're not alone. That there are those who will love them for who they are, not what someone wants or expects them to be.

Do some gay people take it a bit too far and give a bad impression? Sure. But there's plenty of those on the hetero side of things as well. But I'd hate to think we judge a whole group by the actions of a few.

If you want to wave your "Straight for Life!" banner, I have no problem with that. But do it because you are proud of who you are, not because "it's what the gays are doing."

All you need is love.

LimitedVertigo
LimitedVertigo
14 years ago

BearForce1 FTW!

Jawknee
Jawknee
14 years ago

@bearforce1
all we need is love? Ok John Lennon. Tell that to the hateful gays in California who sent death threats to Mornons and others who supported Prop 8.

bearbobby
bearbobby
14 years ago

@ Jawknee

And that's something to be condemned by all, but don't act like no one's ever threatened a gay person before. Again, I hope we don't judge all by the actions of a few.

If people are slaves to their dogmatic religions and vote accordingly, that's sad, but is their right. I also felt it was lamentable that such a large portion of California's black population voted to restrict the rights of another group, but I guess some people don't learn from the mistakes of others. I don't hate them for their decision, but I do feel they based that decision on fear and misunderstanding.

Threats of violence are never the right answer and should not be tolerated. I read an article at the time of those who had made a listing of business owners who supported prop 8 with donations (donations were public knowledge.) They decided to show their dissatisfaction by boycotting said businesses. This is not only their right, but a non-violent way to voice their opinions. They chose not to support a business that didn't support them, and maybe those business owners now realize just how many dollars were coming to them from the hands of those they voted against.

Eventually this will all be old-hat. The world's descendents will look back and wonder how we could ever have been so devisive as a people. I mean just look at the hate that some people spew over which console is better! I just think that people should learn to love themselves and respect others, and the world would be a better place.

"You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one."

Phoelix
Phoelix
14 years ago

Might we direct you to the website of the Westboro Baptist Church, Jawknee.

The real shame of California is that the people were chosen to vote on an issue that's constitutional and should have nothing to do with what the people want. It's that "all men are created equal" part.

Jawknee
Jawknee
14 years ago

lol read the California State constitution, there is and never was a "right" for same sex marriage. Governments job is to remain neutral. and i never pretend gays havent been attacked. read my post again.

Effi
Effi
14 years ago

to bear:

gays are fine. seriously. what is with my paragraph that sparked that essay?

*waves Straight for Life banner*

RustEDalex
RustEDalex
14 years ago

I don't mind having anything sexual in games but I think less sex video game is better for bitness, since parents are the one buying the kids their videa games and of course their going to choose the more friendly one. that's how the wii is winning the money

i know i misspelled some words but that's how i like writing its cooler


Last edited by RustEDalex on 7/6/2009 6:24:15 AM

www
www
14 years ago

Don't have no problem with sex scenes at all but it shouldn't be a gay sex scene never. Am not against gays but its best they keep that thing on the low, they getting too much publicity.

Was it necessary to have a nude guy talking to Johnny in Lost & Damned? I don't think so. Rockstar loves to put current situations going on in real life into their games,is not bad but they might be adding more to the media's stupidness. We have Brucie constantly forcing Niko to touch his pecs,abs whatever,what are the kids gonna think when they see this. Yea i know that's why GTAIV got an 18+ rating but some kids still play it and might not get what's going on.This gay sh*t is getting too far.I still love my GTAIV though.

I could swear there lotta guys who were originally straight but turned gay because the media made it seem like the new thing,damn!

Quote from Niko Bellic:
"Your country, it makes people sick!"


Last edited by www on 7/6/2009 7:27:00 AM

TheHighlander
TheHighlander
14 years ago

If someone wants to do a game about gay characters I don't have a problem with that – though I won't be buying it personally. But if they do, at least mark it very clearly so that parents and consumers can make an informed decision.

If games are becoming a legitimate art form of drama and media in the same ways that movies and TV have. Then games need to reflect society, and the issues society faces. That's all part of the maturing of video games in society.

Alienange
Alienange
14 years ago

TheHighlander, just watch xplay. They'll be sure to mock any "homo game."

Karosso
Karosso
14 years ago

Well, I have to confess that I also have a feminine side… But it so happens that my feminine side is lesbian LOL

Jalex
Jalex
14 years ago

I do my best to hold video games to essentially the same standards as novels or cinema. And I don't mind if there's sexuality in a game (though nudity I don't understand at all in most cases), so long as it has something to do with the plot ('Indigo Prophecy', 'Mass Effect').

And I'm not exactly sure who these 'mature individuals' are. Not to say that there aren't such people in the gaming world, but they make up a small minority (which becomes painfully obvious when games marketed to young children and near-mindless shooters are usually the ones that sell gangbusters, while the truly 'mature' titles are extraordinarily fortunate to hit a couple million).

Also, I don't think that just because something is common means we should just let it go. I realize that intercourse is a huge selling point, but I'm still against the generally negative portrayals of it in all mediums. And I'm not a 19 year-old computer science major or any of the things listed in your article. I simply have a firm belief, and I'm not backing down from it.

And just in case somebody wants to go there (somebody almost always does), I am against the casual treatment of violence in all mediums as well.


Last edited by Jalex on 7/6/2009 7:58:17 AM

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